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Occasionally I will get a call from someone who either is in the early stages of a CPS investigation, or is concerned that a report may have been made, about how to avoid CPS involvement. Sometimes, this is a fairly complicated question, but there are definitely some things that can increase your likelihood of being involved with CPS. The first important thing to note is that CPS gets involved based on referrals made by third parties, and many of these referrals are effectively mandatory even if the person referring you doesn’t really think there is anything going on. Injuries to children can often trigger a referral to CPS even if the cause of the injury was something completely benign if the injury itself has signs of being indicative of abuse. Likewise, statements made by children indicating abuse will almost certainly trigger a referral by any school or daycare personnel who hears it, even if they don’t believe it is the case. For the most part, any agency involved with taking care of children likely will take (and should take) a broad view on what things should be reported and leave it up to CPS to figure things out after that. For reference, here are the sources of referrals from the DFPS 2013 fiscal year data book:

Avoiding CPS And What To Do When You Can’t

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If you’re not one to live by a calendar and a planner, chances are you have a pretty carefree attitude towards life and that you just go with the flow of the situations. That can be a good attitude for a single person, but chaotic for a divorcee with a child. Imagine all your plans clashing with your kid’s and your ex-spouse’s events, it’s like an explosion waiting to happen. It’s better to keep a system both you and your ex-spouse could adhere to to keep a healthy family-work-life balance. For that, I give you two Cs: Calendar and Communication. Keep a Working Calendar Let’s start with the easiest. First, you have to settle on a calendar to use. You can utilize online calendars that you can keep on your phones, or you could buy a physical calendar where you can write your plans on and move back and forth with your child. It’s your choice. Once that’s settled, you move on to the next part which is maintaining that calendar. It’s easy to forget to maintain a calendar, especially if you already mentioned the specific event to your ex during a conversation. But you have to remember that the human mind is feeble and we tend to forget things, so it’s always better to put everything in writing. Input all your personal planned events in the calendar, all your children’s school calendars and summer and holiday breaks, and tell your ex-spouse to do the same. That way, you can visualize the amount of weekends and holidays you can allot and divide for vacations and family events. If possible, try setting reminders for events so that you won’t miss out on any. It may be a handful to keep and maintain a working calendar, but if you get into the […]

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