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5 Things You Learn from a Custody Battle

Custody battles can get very bloody sometimes. They are called battles after all. And just like any battle, this kind will really test you and even push you to the limit sometimes. But you have to remember to keep on keeping on as these things go along because you’re not only fighting for your child, you’re also kind of fighting yourself. Going through a custody battle can help you grow and learn more about yourself.

Don’t Sell Yourself Short

You will have to fight for what you want and deserve in a custody battle. You of all people know how much you want your child to be with you. So, don’t let other people convince you otherwise. Whatever antics they choose to pull off to scare you, do not allow them to back down. Stand your ground and set your boundaries. Do not let them break or breach them.

Find the Strength in You

As much as there will be people there to help you, they won’t be there all the time. That’s why you’ll also have to learn to find the strength present inside you. It helps build a foundation for who you are. And when you find that foundation and use it to help build yourself up, it’ll be harder for your ex to rattle you and it’ll show them you can’t be pushed around.

Don’t Let Them Get in Your Head

People may try to break you. This might be especially true if your relationship with your ex was toxic. Don’t let them get in your head and break you. All their lashing out, all the insults, they’re just there to toy with you and throw you off. Don’t let it get to your head. If you do, that’ll only make things harder for you. But they have no more place in your life, so whatever it is they try to do or say shouldn’t matter to you anymore.

Focus on You, Not Them

In relation to not letting your ex get in your head, make sure you just focus on yourself. Don’t mind whatever it is they’re trying to do. If anything, they’re just trying to distract you and pull you down. If you give them the time of day, they’ll just keep at it. But if you just choose to ignore whatever they’re trying to do, they will stop at some point. So, don’t let them distract you. Just keep your mind on the more important stuff, yourself.

Your Emotions Can Be an Ally

People say you shouldn’t let your emotions get the best of you, and that’s true. But if you find a balance, you will realize that your emotions can be a very useful ally. Your emotions can help motivate you and push you to fight, especially if you feel something very powerful within you that makes you want to keep on fighting even when things get hard. Find that balance and use it to your advantage.

Custody battles will test you and push you to your limits. But just like any hardship in life, there will be things that you can learn from those experiences. So, make the most out of it and find out what you can learn as those will help you grow as a person.

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Mr. Hutton is a Divorce and Custody Lawyer based out of Round Rock, TX. His background is with child psychology at Arizona State University where he received a B.S. in 2006, and he continued this by working with the Children’s Right’s Clinic at the University of Texas School of Law where he received his J.D. in 2009. Throughout his practice, he has been a strong proponent of utilizing modern technology to improve his practice and the representation of his clients. He currently is the technology chair of CAFA of Travis County and is committed to improving and modernizing the practice of law in Texas. If you have any questions you can contact him at

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