Child Custody


custody battle
Custody battles can get very bloody sometimes. They are called battles after all. And just like any battle, this kind will really test you and even push you to the limit sometimes. But you have to remember to keep on keeping on as these things go along because you’re not only fighting for your child, you’re also kind of fighting yourself. Going through a custody battle can help you grow and learn more about yourself. Don’t Sell Yourself Short You will have to fight for what you want and deserve in a custody battle. You of all people know how much you want your child to be with you. So, don’t let other people convince you otherwise. Whatever antics they choose to pull off to scare you, do not allow them to back down. Stand your ground and set your boundaries. Do not let them break or breach them. Find the Strength in You As much as there will be people there to help you, they won’t be there all the time. That’s why you’ll also have to learn to find the strength present inside you. It helps build a foundation for who you are. And when you find that foundation and use it to help build yourself up, it’ll be harder for your ex to rattle you and it’ll show them you can’t be pushed around. Don’t Let Them Get in Your Head People may try to break you. This might be especially true if your relationship with your ex was toxic. Don’t let them get in your head and break you. All their lashing out, all the insults, they’re just there to toy with you and throw you off. Don’t let it get to your head. If you do, that’ll only make things harder for you. But they […]

5 Things You Learn from a Custody Battle   Recently updated !


sperm donor
Being a sperm donor can be a pretty rewarding thing. As a sperm donor, you can help a couple that is unable to have a child on their own. You can help give them something they want but can’t have, and that’s a pretty noble thing to do. But what happens if things get complicated and suddenly, you’re being asked to pay for child support? The US Law on Sperm Donors As a general law, the United States protects sperm donors from paying child support. If you donate your sperm for artificial insemination, chances are you won’t have to worry about paying child support. In some states, it is a requirement that this insemination is done with the help of a medical professional. If the insemination wasn’t done through a medical professional, you may have to pay for child support. In other states, a medical professional does not need to be present for the insemination to take place. There should be an agreement stating that you will not have to pay for child support before the insemination. If the child was conceived through intercourse, some states may still require you to pay child support if needed. This is because you will be treated as the child’s biological father. It would be best to check what laws your state follows regarding these matters. Texas Law on Sperm Donors In the state of Texas, sperm donors are not required to have a medical professional present when donating sperm. Donors who would also like to be anonymous and choose not to get involved with the life of the child are not required to pay for child support. They will only have to pay for child support should they claim paternity over the child or if they happen to still be present and involved […]

Is a Sperm Donor Father Required to Pay Child Support?   Recently updated !



mother
One of the biggest issues to resolve in a divorce is custody of the children. There is a common notion or expectation that the mother gets custody. That is unless it is subsequently proven that she is unfit or unqualified. This is not accurate.  The actual statute of the law is that custody of the child will be awarded to the primary caregiver. That is not always the mother. There are also many instances wherein the father would willfully concede primary custody. These and other cases have perpetuated the misconception that the “default” custody belongs to the mother.  However, there are cases wherein the mother actually loses custody of the child. If you are facing this situation, this doesn’t mean you lost your child. You can still be a mother to your child. It is a tough situation, but there are ways to cope and still be a good mother to your child.  Try to Address the Reason Why You Did Not Gain Custody If you really fought for primary custody of your child in court, then the judge would need to be very clear and detailed in his/her decision.  There are common reasons why a mother is not awarded custody. It could be as simple as the fact that you are not the primary caretaker. This is not just an issue of who spends more time with the child, although that places a lot of favor.  The judge will look at which parent does the most in terms of child-rearing. The parent who addresses most of the child’s needs. In most cases, that would be the stay-at-home parent, but it is not a certainty.  If there are any accusations that would cast doubt on your ability to be a parent, as a history of abusive behavior or a proven […]

How to Keep Your Role as a Mother to Your Kids After Divorce when You are a Non-custodial Parent   Recently updated !


child sex abuse
Things that have to do with any kind of abuse are hard to deal with, most especially sexual abuse. Things only get harder if you find out that the abuser is your spouse and that the victim is your child. But as much as it might sound like a situation that’s hard to accept, these things do happen. And if you happen to find out that your spouse happens to be one of those people, thinking of a course of action might just be difficult for you and your child. If you do find yourself in this situation and want to learn more about what you can do, read on. Focus on Your Child With so much going on in a situation like this, the first thing that you’re going to have to focus on would be on your child. You’re going to have to start taking steps to help make sure that you get your child out of situations that might put them in danger. Whether it be taking your child out of your home first and moving them to a relative’s home or keeping constant watch over your child, you’re going to have to make sure that they feel safe, especially around you. You should also talk to them and find out how you can help them through it. Consider their feelings and help them know that what they feel is valid. If you need help with that, maybe have a therapist talk to them to help them process their thoughts and emotions. File a Case Immediately In the United States, all states, such as the state of Texas, recognize that sexual abuse is a crime. If you find out that your spouse has been sexually abusing your child, you will have to report it as soon as […]

Discovering Your Child Suffered Sex Abuse from Your Spouse



getty rr photo of father and baby in bed
When a married couple has a child, even without properly establishing paternity, people will automatically assume that the husband is the father. In order for that thought to be legally changed at court, ample evidence is necessary. It’s different when an unmarried couple has a child, it is often necessary for one parent to establish the identity of the father of the child. This is very important because this is the fact that the child will have to grow up with. This also matters because the child will need support from the father, such as financial support. Usually, despite being unmarried, the father would assume that his rights to the child are guaranteed even at the face of separation from the child’s mother. Acknowledging Paternity Usually, the acknowledgment of paternity is done at the hospital, after the child’s birth. There is an Acknowledgement of Paternity document that both parents can sign before it is submitted to the government office. When the father signs the documents, all doubts about paternity is put to rest, and the father’s name is added to the birth certificate, usually. If the couple is not married, the father is informed of the rights and duties of a father before he signs the Acknowledgement of Paternity. Once he signs the document, only then can his name be added to the child’s birth certificate. The acknowledgment document is then submitted to the Bureau of Vital Statistics. Once they accept this document, the father’s name can be officially added to the birth certificate. Other Ways of Establishing Paternity Another way to establish paternity is through the Child Support Division of the Texas Attorney general. This happens when the mother doesn’t really know who the father of the child is, or if either of the two refuses to sign the […]

How to Establish Paternity in Texas


holiday visitation
It’s almost that time of the year again. The holiday season’s about to roll in again. That means a lot of free time for the kids. For some people, that also means holiday visitation time’s about to come. If you’re one of those people, chances are you still might be figuring out what to do. Well, if you still have no idea what you’re going to do, don’t worry. We’ve got a few tips for you that might help you out. Just keep reading on. Plan, Plan, Plan This might already be obvious, but sometimes people tend to forget the obvious. If you’re not one of those people, it’s still good to reiterate it to emphasize how important this is. The best way to make the most out of holiday visitations with your child is to plan it out. Make sure you have the dates set and all the details ironed out. They don’t have to be incredibly detailed, but at least just make sure you have some idea of what you want to do with your child. That way, you don’t waste so much time trying to figure out what to do when you’re already there. Plus, it gives both of you something to look forward to. Think of the Children Holiday visitations should be centered on your child. We understand that you miss your child and that you haven’t seen them in so long, but just remember that this is more for them than it is for you. When planning out what to do, remember to keep your child in mind. Do things you know they’ll love. If you aren’t sure what they are or just want an update on what they’re into at present, you can always talk to them. We’re sure you want to do a […]

Tips for Planning Holiday Visitation with Your Child



non custodial father
You recently got divorced. Your ex-partner has custody over your kids. Now, you’re living on your own or at least living apart from them. Does this sound familiar? If it does, chances are you might be worrying about how you can still be a father to your children. Well, as much as this is a rather scary thought, this really shouldn’t worry you so much. Just because you don’t have custody over your children doesn’t mean being a father to them is impossible.  There are still some things you can do to work around it. Keep in Touch The first thing you can do to help work around this situation would be to do your best to keep in touch with them. With the advent of technology, keeping in touch with people is relatively easy now. There is absolutely no excuse for you to not contact them. Whether it be through phone calls or video calls, messaging apps, or anything like that, checking in on your kids nowadays is practically one button-touch away. Check on them and ask them how they are, how their day was, what they’ve been up to, and the like. Let them know you still care and that you’re still there. Just because you’re not around physically doesn’t mean you still aren’t there for them at all. Just think of it as a long-distance relationship of sorts. Talk to Your Ex Just because you two are now divorced doesn’t mean you can be good co-parents with one another, especially if you two aren’t on bad terms. Work together with your ex to at least be great parents to your children. Working together helps make it less confusing for your kids when they still see that mom and dad, though they aren’t together anymore, are still working […]

How to Keep Your Role as a Father to Your Kids After Divorce When You Are a Non-Custodial Parent


child's surname
A divorce will bring about numerous changes in a family. One can even say that there is no family anymore since there would only be a parent and a child in one home, with the other parent somewhere else.  Aside from the physical changes, there would also be legal changes, and that could reflect in the name of the divorced wife if she decides to use her maiden name again. However, the name of the child is a different matter. How to Change a Child’s Surname After Divorce After a divorce, the child’s name will still remain the same. Even if the mother decides to change her name and she has the primary custody (physical and legal), the surname of the child will not automatically change with hers. The Texas Family Code requires one to undergo certain steps before they can legally change the name of a minor. Even if they remarry, and the children will have stepparents, the child will not change his surname unless they file a petition. The next step will be the verification before the actual court order. Before this can happen, all the parents, guardians or conservator should sign their own verification of the petition. In other words, everyone must agree to the name change, and there is a need to cite a good reason for it. The verifications will have to be signed by all parties in the presence of a notary public. The notary will then verify that the parties concerned signed the petition in their presence. If the child is over ten years old, then he/she should express their consent on the petition. There is a separate form for that. Judge’s Decision The judge will hear out the petition and will ask the petitioner on their reasons for the name change. The […]

Can You Change Your Child’s Surname After Divorce?