Parenting


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Spending time with your kids is definitely an important aspect of your relationship with them. Spending quality time with them continues to strengthen your relationship with them. It also does help in their growth and development, especially in their younger years. No parent would want to have that precious time spent with their children ruined. That still applies even if you’re a divorced parent taking turns parenting your child with your ex-spouse. If there are tension and distrust between ex-spouses, can spouses track their ex-spouse when it’s their turn with the kids? Tracking With the advancement of technology nowadays, it’s pretty easy to keep track of a lot of things. You can keep track of packages, flights, the location of your phone, and even your dog and cat all at the push of a button. And while tracking in these cases can seem quite harmless, it can reach a point where it isn’t so harmless anymore. Just like how wiretapping and even the simple act of going through someone’s messages on their phone without their permission can get you in trouble, tracking the whereabouts of a person without their knowledge can land you in some sort of trouble. Not only is doing something like that a form of stalking, but it’s practically an invasion of privacy at that point. It’s Illegal, Then? The entire legality of your ex tracking you during your time with your child depends on your situation. If you are, for example, in the state of Texas and the judge handling your custody settlement with your child sees good reason for you to have a tracker for you during the time that you would be spending with your child, maybe because of a prior criminal record, then it would be perfectly okay and legal for your ex […]

Is Being Tracked by Your Ex-Spouse Allowed?


updating co parent agreement
Even after the divorce has been finalized, life goes on for both ex-spouses. As they move on, the only thing certain is change. Some of these changes may have direct effects, specifically on the children. Custody is a sensitive matter, and the court will always reiterate that any arrangement is focused on the protection of the children. Thus, if any changes in the lives of the co-parents will compromise the welfare of the children, then they will intervene. If you feel that the co-parenting agreement needs to be modified because of new phases in you or your co-parent’s lives, then Texas law has methods to update them. Modifications on the Co-parenting Agreement If you and your co-parent agree to the changes, you can get together and work out the new parenting plan and custody schedule. Once both parties have signed, you can submit it to court and they would usually accept the conditions if it complies with all legal prerequisites.  There are times when there are some points of disagreement in the proposed co-parenting modification. If you could not work it out with your ex-spouse, then you can ask help from a family counselor or a custody mediator.  You and your co-parent can change the terms, schedules, and conditions of the agreement as deemed fit to the changes in your lives. These changes should be stated in writing and signed by both parties, with both parties retaining a copy. If the changes require a court order, then they should submit the proposed agreement as a court document.  Disputes in Modification There would be complications if only one side wants to have modification while the other side is happy with the status quo. This means you have to go to court to have these changes enforced.  You need to file a […]

Updating Your Co-Parenting Agreement



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Custody and visitation are one of the most contentious points in divorce. When the divorce court hands out the final orders, the co-parents want to follow it to the letter. Parents want to spend the most time with their children, but they will have to face consequences from the law.  When the Child Refuses One complicated issue is when the child refuses to go with the other parent. In the scenario when the child is already dressed up and packed, and the other parent is on the way, but the children state that they would rather stay with the custodial parent, should the child’s refusal prevail? There could be many factors that led to this. Perhaps the divorce proceeding was intense. Perhaps there were some accusations thrown against the other parent and it led to negative feelings developing with the child.  In another scenario, the custodial parent already has temporary custody and it was reversed in the final orders. That means the children are being transferred again—and this could push the resistance.  For whatever reason, the law must still be enforced. This is what the law states. The orders must be followed, and there would be consequences if it weren’t.  The Custodian’s Obligation The managing conservator sees that the judge’s orders are followed. It is not a sufficient excuse that the child refuses.  Precedents in Texas law have ruled the following:  That the adult has to take responsibility. Aside from the physical preparations of packing the children’s personal things and accompanying them while waiting for the other parent. The custodians need to explain the situation to the child and why they need to go with their other parent. There are cases when the custodial parent is admonished by the court. They should also lead the child to go with the […]

Can a Child Refuse Visitation?


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Life may not turn out how we want it to be. It’s not even covered with the glitters, sparkles, and unicorn riding in rainbows. Frequently, it is brutal and unforgiving. The same goes for marriage. It can start from the most romantic story from a well-written fictional book, but it may end with two broken hearts, two broken persons and God forbid, children that will forever be affected with the life-altering decision to split. But, if the latter took place and you are now on your separate ways, living life without the pain of yesterday, how can you possibly even talk to each other? In this article, we’ll be presenting you the 3R’s of healthy and civil communication with your ex-spouse. You need to take note of the following tips, and no misunderstandings shall occur.   Reconcile differences and respect it This is not an easy step towards progress, but this is the most crucial one. There’s nothing more devastating than looking or being reminded of how your love story ended in a whirlwind of lies, heartbreaks, and tears. The key to making communication successful with an ex-spouse is to accept whatever differences you both have and do not let your emotions interfere or add meaning to it. It’ll only complicate the situation. Respect the relationship even if you have negative feelings towards the other person This may be tough but keep in mind that for some degree and time in your life, you only had each other to hold on. In cases that you want to talk about your kids or legal things that you need to decide accordingly, always speak to that person in a professional matter. No name-calling, no strings, and emotions attached. For example, instead of calling him a douchebag, write a correspondence that addresses him […]

How to Communicate With Your Ex During the Divorce



stay at home mom
There are several and various notions and mixed reactions to stay-at-home moms. Some say positive things like how they sacrifice a lot in order to stay home and tend to their children every day. Some say that they are lazy. In this day and age of independent career women, being a stay-at-home mom usually gets dumped on. Most people think that they are entitled and they are just living the luxurious life being jobless, not reporting to any superiors, and not having to deal with workplace stress. Below are some of the common reasons why people think that being a stay-at-home mom is not good.  This lifestyle is treated as a luxury. As mentioned above, many people would think that being a stay-at-home mom is a privileged lifestyle. The mom gets to stay at home without any financial problems and just live off the earnings of the husband. However, what people fail to see is that this decision can also be an economic necessity for families. A 2018 study shows that the rates of daycare exceed the earnings of the family in a month. This means that several low-income parents would actually end up paying to work instead of the other way around. But, dealing with tantrums of a child and constantly cleaning after is not exactly an appealing job that is worth being envious of. They are also the likely victims of domestic violence and economic abuse. Stay-at-Home Mothers are not the most confident people. Many believe that who they are as a person is related to what they do in life. As a result of not having a traditional office job, many stay-at-home moms often end up losing the confidence they once had. While the children may think that their mom is such a superwoman, in most cases, […]

Reasons Why Stay-at-Home Moms Gets a Negative Rap


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If you’re one of the many people who never wanted kids, who had an unplanned baby too early, or who believes that you can’t make a great life for your child, then you might want to know that it is possible to relinquish your parental rights, at least according to Texas Law. Even though the state protocol for parents is to encourage active participation and involvement in the child’s life, the law contains loopholes for pretty much everything given the right circumstances and pieces of evidence. It’s not a common action, most of the time, parents who aren’t ready to become parents resort to child abandonment or neglect. Which is sad because the children are left to grow up unguided in the care of the state. So if you consider yourself fitting in one of the descriptions mentioned above, I want you to know that you have another choice – a healthier and better choice at that, although it might be frowned upon. There are two general points the court would have to consider before freeing you of your parental rights. A Strong and Valid reason You can give up your parental rights, provided that you have a strong and valid reason for your case to be allowed in court. Of course, it won’t be easy and you have to go through the right procedures which may take a while, but it’s better to accept your unfitness early on than make the child suffer in the end. Another factor the court would check is if there is another person willing to step up, before you ultimately step down from your position as a parent. For instance, if you were forced into parenthood because of an unplanned pregnancy, you will need to provide child support for a kid you didn’t even […]

Voluntarily Relinquishing Your Parental Rights



Possible Child Custody Arrangements After Your Divorce
 Child custody arrangements are one of the most nerve-wracking court decisions you’d ever have to anticipate as a parent in a Texas Family Court. Most of the parents who approach Texas family law attorneys have this as their biggest concern regarding their divorce. Parents are also aware that the divorce can have a huge impact on their child’s life. In fact, the impact could be greater on the children. Child custody is one of the subjects parents have the most questions about. Possession Vs. Custody Despite this being, not a legal term, parents usually refer to their ‘possession’ issues as ‘custody’ concerns. Parents, who approach family law attorneys in Texas usually ask along the lines of ‘Can I get sole custody of my child?’ Most parents who ask this question do not trust their spouse to be a good parent to their children after the divorce. They also tend to ask more questions and seek more information about split child custody. A lot of parents get shocked at the fact that in the legal world, ‘child custody’ doesn’t exist. Child custody arrangements are in fact conservatorship arrangements in the state of Texas. Conservatorship is governed by Texas state laws regarding relationships between parents and children. Conservatorship also covers the rights and duties that parents have over their child. How are all these related to or affected by your divorce?   The Impact of Conservatorship to You and Your Children   As a conservator, you must be able to make sound decisions for your child until he or she is no longer a minor. This includes decisions regarding where your child will primarily live until adulthood, the school where your child will be attending, decisions regarding healthcare, psychiatric and other medical procedures. These are basically the core of your parental duties […]

Custody vs. Conservatorship in Your Divorce


Help Child Cope With Divorce
Divorce is often seen as a final resort which a couple should avoid at all costs. There are situations where divorce could be the only option and in these cases, the family has no choice but to survive. Regardless of the circumstances of divorce, the children are always caught in the crossfire.  Effects of Divorce on Children Divorce will have many effects on younger children since their main source of security is their parents. They could develop trust issues or have an irrational fear of being left alone. This effect could extend into adulthood and affect their relationships. The aftermath of divorce will also subject the child to significant adjustments. Their parents will now live separately and the child has to divide their time with them and also need to stay in two different houses. These adjustments will take their toll on the child and the strain can manifest physically through eating disorders or even self-harm.  In order to help your child survive through your divorce, the parents must observe the following: Assure your child that the divorce is not his fault. If the children have witnessed the deterioration of the relationship, they may place the blame upon themselves. It is imperative for both parents to take responsibility for their decision to divorce and this should be extensively explained to the children. Be patient with the children and avoid telling them to just “move on.” The parents should remember that even if they gradually reached the decision to divorce, it will always come as a shock to their children. Since the parents know that the children will most likely object, they are often excluded in the decision making process. Thus, while the mother and father are mentally prepared and may even have arrangements ready for the upcoming split, the children […]

Help Your Child Cope with Divorce