Parenting


Knowing What’s In Your Child’s Best Interests
Your child’s best interests will always be a key point in your divorce and child custody cases. As you are well aware, your child feels the impact of the divorce even more than you do. It’s really a sad reality that you have to accept and deal with properly. You and your spouse can have some control over the circumstances that affect your divorce, but your child is completely helpless. It is quite common for children to feel confused and misplaced when their parents are undergoing a divorce. As a parent, you obviously would want to protect your children. The divorce probably happened because you want to protect your children from your spouse’s wrongdoings or abusive behavior. Knowing what’s in your child’s best interests would definitely help in ensuring that they can have a normal life during and after the divorce. The conflicts and the many issues that you will have to deal with throughout the duration of your divorce could take its toll on you. You might lose sight of the fact that your children are your priority. You could be blinded by things that you will fail to recognize what’s in your child’s best interests. How can you play your divorce according to your child’s best interests? 1. Avoid the Courthouse It might come as a surprise to many that a lot of divorce cases don’t get into the courtroom. Contrary to what movies and television depict, most divorces actually end in settlement, hence, there’s no need to pay a visit to the judge. The only problem with this option is that you might find it difficult to deal with your spouse when you are still at the peak of your anger. If your spouse has terribly wronged you, it can be quite uncomfortable to work together to […]

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It is every child’s right to a childhood that will help them grow and flourish as a person. No matter where that child is in the world, it is a right due to that child. That is why as a parent, you have to make sure that you help give them that right in the best way you can. Single parent or not, it is your duty to your child to help make their childhood the best one they can possibly have. If you find yourself in a rut, struggling to come to terms with what you have to do for your child, or thinking about whether or not you’re ready for a child, read on and maybe you’ll find something that can help. You Can’t Back Out from that Duty Your child’s right to have a good childhood is something that you cannot back out of. Of course, it isn’t some written agreement that you sign, but it is a duty that you take on when you decide to become that child’s parent. No matter where you are in the world, the rights of children all help aim to protect them and make sure that they grow up in an environment that can help foster their growth. Just like how adults have their corresponding rights, children also have their rights. And the minute they are violated, there will be repercussions. But even without all the legal concerns, it should be a good parent’s duty to make sure you help give your children the rights due to them. Set All Your Issues Aside No parent is perfect. No matter how flawed you think you are, whether you might have commitment issues or have trouble communicating, you should do your best to set all your issues aside to help give your […]

Your Child Deserves to be Happy



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Being a parent entails supporting children in every aspect of their lives— including financial support. Your kids can’t earn for themselves yet. They are totally dependent on their parents. A change in one’s financial situation can affect a parent’s ability to support the child or make child custody payments. Unemployment can raise questions about financial capacity and this may cause changes in the support order of your custody agreement.  Remember, it’s not easy to save money. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t have savings left for the rainy days. People change and lose jobs. It’s normal. We get to experience reduced income or loss of income for various reasons. Circumstances like these often call for cutting back on the expenditures because not doing so can have an impact on one’s capacity to pay for the basic responsibilities which include child support that is specified in the Texas child custody agreement.  At a Disadvantage A parent who does not have a job has a small chance in winning a custody case. Again, your child has needs. Money is really an issue in childcare. However, custody is not solely determined on the person’s career or the lack thereof. The court does not decide custody cases on financial capacity alone. Custody is not always awarded to the richer parent. You don’t have to be richer. You just have to have enough to take care of the child. Custody cases are decided by evaluating factors that help determine what is in the best interest of the child. Children are usually in the residential custody of the primary parent.  Modifying Child Support The amount of child support will be based on the current income of the noncustodial parent. Applying for modification of the support order is possible when there are changes to the income. […]

Will You Lose Custody When You Lose Your Job?


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For most parents, getting a divorce can most definitely be difficult. If you have children, it’s hard for them to have to go through this. If not handled well, this might just have a negative impact on them. While you want to minimize the impact, what if they need to testify? But wait, can they? Children Testifying As much as it might be difficult to imagine, it is possible for children to testify during divorce proceedings. Usually, children are only asked to testify when it comes to matters of custody. For any other matters regarding the divorce, children are usually left out. When children are asked to testify, the court does not really take into consideration the child’s age. What the court puts more emphasis on would be whether they are competent enough to testify. That means that the child basically has to be mentally mature enough to understand what is going on and also be able to contribute something that may be of relevance to the proceedings. Of course, the court still has to make sure that children not yet in their teen years are questioned carefully to avoid biasing them or causing a mistrial. How They Testify If the child needs to testify before a court during their parents’ divorce proceedings, they may or may not have to testify in front of the court. Instead, the child may just end up talking to the judge handling the proceedings. This way, the child is put in a more comfortable environment. The judge and the child can then just talk. The amount of consideration the judge gives to the child’s testimony also depends on the age of the child and how mentally mature they are. Though the child cannot completely dictate who they want to live with, the judge will […]

Can Children Testify in Divorce Proceedings?



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Understanding the Process The process of obtaining child custody in Texas can really be an arduous and perplexing task. Many parents think that they can just explain to a judge why he or she should be granted full custody. However, the process is much more than just that. The judge can even decide on not giving full custody of the child to either parents. The judge may decide so if both parents are unfit. In this article, the importance of getting full custody over a child will be tackled.  What is Full Custody? Full custody means it includes both legal and physical custody of the child. A parent with full custody over a child is the one who has legal authority to decide on major matters. Such matters include the child’s education, healthcare, and religion. Major decisions are easier done when only one parent gets to call the shots for the child. Advantages of Full Custody Full custody can give the child’s living situation a better structure. It results to consistency as opposed to having two parents with different views deciding on such major matters. Another advantage of obtaining full custody is the child residing in only one primary location. This eliminates the unnecessary back and forth routine between the house of the parents of the child. This reduces the disruption that the child is exposed to, which in turn provides a sense of stability. In most cases, the child ends up staying in the same location prior to the divorce. This means that the child may not have to move to a different school and adjust to a new environment. All aspects of a custody battle affect a child. The majority of the child’s life will be in a middle of a conflict of his or her parents even […]

The Importance of Obtaining Full Custody During Divorce


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One of the biggest issues to resolve in a divorce is custody of the children. There is a common notion or expectation that the mother gets custody. That is unless it is subsequently proven that she is unfit or unqualified. This is not accurate.  The actual statute of the law is that custody of the child will be awarded to the primary caregiver. That is not always the mother. There are also many instances wherein the father would willfully concede primary custody. These and other cases have perpetuated the misconception that the “default” custody belongs to the mother.  However, there are cases wherein the mother actually loses custody of the child. If you are facing this situation, this doesn’t mean you lost your child. You can still be a mother to your child. It is a tough situation, but there are ways to cope and still be a good mother to your child.  Try to Address the Reason Why You Did Not Gain Custody If you really fought for primary custody of your child in court, then the judge would need to be very clear and detailed in his/her decision.  There are common reasons why a mother is not awarded custody. It could be as simple as the fact that you are not the primary caretaker. This is not just an issue of who spends more time with the child, although that places a lot of favor.  The judge will look at which parent does the most in terms of child-rearing. The parent who addresses most of the child’s needs. In most cases, that would be the stay-at-home parent, but it is not a certainty.  If there are any accusations that would cast doubt on your ability to be a parent, as a history of abusive behavior or a proven […]

How to Keep Your Role as a Mother to Your Kids After Divorce when You are a Non-custodial Parent



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Things that have to do with any kind of abuse are hard to deal with, most especially sexual abuse. Things only get harder if you find out that the abuser is your spouse and that the victim is your child. But as much as it might sound like a situation that’s hard to accept, these things do happen. And if you happen to find out that your spouse happens to be one of those people, thinking of a course of action might just be difficult for you and your child. If you do find yourself in this situation and want to learn more about what you can do, read on. Focus on Your Child With so much going on in a situation like this, the first thing that you’re going to have to focus on would be on your child. You’re going to have to start taking steps to help make sure that you get your child out of situations that might put them in danger. Whether it be taking your child out of your home first and moving them to a relative’s home or keeping constant watch over your child, you’re going to have to make sure that they feel safe, especially around you. You should also talk to them and find out how you can help them through it. Consider their feelings and help them know that what they feel is valid. If you need help with that, maybe have a therapist talk to them to help them process their thoughts and emotions. File a Case Immediately In the United States, all states, such as the state of Texas, recognize that sexual abuse is a crime. If you find out that your spouse has been sexually abusing your child, you will have to report it as soon as […]

Discovering Your Child Suffered Sex Abuse from Your Spouse


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When a married couple has a child, even without properly establishing paternity, people will automatically assume that the husband is the father. In order for that thought to be legally changed at court, ample evidence is necessary. It’s different when an unmarried couple has a child, it is often necessary for one parent to establish the identity of the father of the child. This is very important because this is the fact that the child will have to grow up with. This also matters because the child will need support from the father, such as financial support. Usually, despite being unmarried, the father would assume that his rights to the child are guaranteed even at the face of separation from the child’s mother. Acknowledging Paternity Usually, the acknowledgment of paternity is done at the hospital, after the child’s birth. There is an Acknowledgement of Paternity document that both parents can sign before it is submitted to the government office. When the father signs the documents, all doubts about paternity is put to rest, and the father’s name is added to the birth certificate, usually. If the couple is not married, the father is informed of the rights and duties of a father before he signs the Acknowledgement of Paternity. Once he signs the document, only then can his name be added to the child’s birth certificate. The acknowledgment document is then submitted to the Bureau of Vital Statistics. Once they accept this document, the father’s name can be officially added to the birth certificate. Other Ways of Establishing Paternity Another way to establish paternity is through the Child Support Division of the Texas Attorney general. This happens when the mother doesn’t really know who the father of the child is, or if either of the two refuses to sign the […]

How to Establish Paternity in Texas