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Pets are adorable, sometimes it’s hard to say no to buying (or adopting) one for your home. It’s true, they’re good companions and they can your life more fun—complete your family, even. But you have to ask yourself and your partner: “Are we ready to take care of it?” There are several things you have to consider before adding a fur baby to your family. So, before you give in to those puppy dog eyes, you have to take some things into consideration first. The responsibilities Just like children, pets need constant care and attention. They also need to be potty-trained, bathed, and taken to the vet for shots. It sounds like a lot of work, but that’s the reality of it. You have to put the time and effort, especially if they’re really young puppies or kittens that still need to be bottle-fed. It’s going to be tiring and they might disturb you in more ways than one. But if you do it right, it’s going to be worth it because they’ll stay with your family as long as they will live. The kids You may be thinking that being in a family will make it easier to take care of a pet since there’s more than one person helping out. But what if your kids aren’t able to do this task? They may either be too young to even hold a pet (more on this later), or just don’t understand their responsibility yet. A child who’s old enough to understand what’s right and wrong can be taught how to handle your family pet. Make sure to show them how to be gentle—no reckless actions during playtime or anything like that—as well as the basics like putting food in the bowl and walking them to the park. Not only […]

Is Your Family Ready For a Pet?

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Shared Parenting after a Divorce is the Healthiest Option Divorce is difficult for anyone and everyone involved in the process. Even if the divorce is amicable, that doesn’t make it easy.  Deciding what party gets custody of the children and parenting powers is difficult.  Despite being difficult, it is a decision that needs to be made. In the past, it was tradition to award only one parent parenting powers.  This parent would often be the mothers because it was believed that mothering instinct was powerful and that it was a requirement for anyone growing up.  For the most part, this notion is being dismissed as outdated and inaccurate. A more modern but still outdated approach is to assign visitation hours to a parent, most often the father.  The term visitation implies that the parent is something less than they are.  It also is demoralizing. The best approach to parenting after a divorce is to split the parenting as equally as possible.  While the best approach is to have the parenting split 50/50, the minimal amount that a parent should be with their child(children) is 35%.  This allows for a connection between the parent and the child, it also allows for the both parties to feel appreciated. A split parenting position for divorce isn’t just something that the courts thought would be in the best interest of both parents, it is something that has been studied thoroughly. Over 50 studies have been conducted into shared parenting.  Parents and children from around the world have been studied to determine the optimal parenting situation for children of divorces.   Those kids who stayed with both parents for at least 35% for each parent did far better in life. Both academic and social lives improved, as well as psychological health. No matter who you are […]

Shared Parenting after a Divorce

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Divorce is not only difficult for the couples involved, but also for the kids. This life-changing event can affect them greatly as they get older. This also includes their beliefs on the sanctity of marriage. If your family subscribes to Christian or Catholic beliefs, then you were most likely taught that marriage is sacred and only death can split a husband and a wife apart. This lesson is also passed on to children as soon as they’re old enough to understand the concept of lifelong matrimony. So, when a divorce happens, a child’s spirituality may be affected. What should parents do to avoid this? Take note of these tips below. Converse with your child and give them an outlet Children also need healing in the during and after a divorce. They don’t adjust well in the midst of conflict, which may cause emotional trauma and prolonged feeling of abandonment. One way you can help them with this sadness is to constantly converse with them and ask them how they’re doing. That way, they’ll learn how to express their feelings—both positive and negative. They will appreciate being given an outlet where they can let out their sadness, guilt, and anger, especially if they live in a home wherein traditional Christian family values have been broken. Give them the assurance they still have a family You and your spouse may be apart, but it doesn’t mean your child has one less parent. Lessen their resentment toward their parents and God by making sure they still have a family to come home to. Continue teaching them spirituality Studies have shown that children are less likely to attend church weekly when their parents are divorced. So it’s clear how the life event will impact a child’s faith. Again, talk to them and teach them […]

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Parenting after your divorce can undoubtedly be stressful. There are changes that you’ve never dreamed you’d ever have to deal with but now you are expected to deal with them one by one. Life after divorce without kids is difficult enough but the adjustments you’d have to face when you have kids is even worse. You will have to help the kids cope with the changes while fighting to cope yourself. Your rights, duties, and responsibilities will undergo a massive change. It’s natural for a parent to be somewhat afraid and worried about what life may hold after your divorce. Parenting after your divorce requires a lot of courage, determination, and patience. It will also require you to cooperate with your ex-spouse even when you don’t want to face him or her ever again. Basically, parenting after your divorce requires you to deal with conservatorship, child support, adjusting to the changes in your rights and duties as parents, and dealing with your child’s school. There’s a possibility that your child will have to change schools or deal with the changes while staying at the same school. There’s also a chance that you will have to deal with CPS if you’re not careful, which is a total nightmare for any parent after the divorce. As if you don’t already have enough on your plate! In this article, we will give you a comprehensive guide to all these issues you will have to deal with in your parenting after your divorce. 1. Conservatorship There are many parents who want full custody of the children after their divorce. It mainly could have something to do with one parent’s relationship with the other parent. If the divorce did not end amicably, it is highly likely that one parent would want the full custody of […]

A Comprehensive Guide to Parenting After Your Divorce

The State of Texas has the full intention of looking out for the welfare of its children. It provides laws and guidelines to ensure that the adults act responsibly in their treatment of children. Aside from custody, child support and other aspects, the state also has rules for babysitting.  Legal Babysitting Age Texas law does not have a specified legal age for babysitting. What it does require is a certificate to work for anyone under the age of 18. In this case, the federal law states that the minimum age for anyone to work is 14.  Texas allows the parents to choose the private babysitters for their children provided it does not violate federal law.  In-Home Babysitting Texas state law is definitive about in-home babysitting, though. If you want to start an in-home babysitting business, the state will conduct a criminal background check. This is a thorough investigation on the owner and the employees to ensure that they do not have any criminal convictions whether they be sexual in nature or that of violence and abuse. The law allows you to operate even without a license under certain parameters. The law is very specific on how many children you can take care of. They set the limit at four children. If you take care of more than four children at a time, you are required to register or get a license.  Registered Childcare Home A registered childcare home takes care of four to six school-age children at a time. They can also take care of up to six middle-aged children aside from these, with the maximum set at twelve. The provider has to clear all background checks and attend an orientation. They also need to comply with on-site inspections to see if they would meet the minimum standards set by […]

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Divorce is often a tragedy that a family has to cope with. It presents a challenge for all the parties involved. However, there are situations where the degree of difficulty is drastically increased. One such situation is if your ex-spouse is an addict. When the ex-spouse is addicted to something, the divorce may be seen as a relief. However, if there are kids involved, one has no choice but to share parenting responsibilities with the ex-spouse. This situation can present some complications, some of which are enumerated below. The Addicted Parent has Trouble with Committing to Schedules By its definition, an addict has become dependent and is unable to function normally without the fixation. As a co-parent, addicts often fail to keep a commitment even if it were mutually agreed upon by both parties. In a divorce setting, this could result in conflict or even legal implications. Custody is a legal matter and the judges impose that the schedules be followed to the letter. The Child may be Exposed to Harmful Substances As with addicts, they are likely to use harmful or toxic substances. Without the contentions of the other parent the addict co-parent may leave their drugs or even the paraphernalia in the household premises, within reach of the child. Regardless of the child’s age, this is never a good thing. Addicts are more Prone to Negligence If the child is dependent on a parent who is, in turn, dependent on something else, his needs may not be the first priority of the addicted co-parent. Thus, there would be times when the addicted parent would neglect the child’s meals or, in some cases, prescribed medication. How to Cope with an Addict Co-Parent There are necessary steps that a parent needs to undertake in order to cope with this challenging […]

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A mediated settlement agreement, especially in divorce cases, can help both parties in so many aspects. Choosing to work out an agreement outside the courtroom rather than having a judge decide on the case will enable the parties to save money and time. Having an agreement also lets the parties plot the course of the future of their family. This is also favored by judges since it entails the reduction of trials and hearings on temporary orders that they must oversee. The only exception is when there is the involvement of children in the case because a judge must still ensure that the settlement agreements are in the child’s best interests. In Re: Stephanie Lee Most settlement agreements are not changed by judges who are to sign them. However, a recent case that happened in Houston, where two judges who were assigned to the case refused to sign and honor an agreement due to the fact that they believed it was not for the best interest of the children. The name of this case was In Re: Stephanie Lee. The Texas Supreme Court had to decide whether to uphold the validity of the settlement agreement or not. The father and mother were dealing with a post-divorce child custody case. They both had agreed to a Mediated Settlement Agreement, which included the pre-scheduled visitation of both parents with the child. Shortly after coming up with the binding agreement, the father told the judge during a hearing with the Court that he no longer assents to the agreement, specifically with regard to his ex-wife’s visitation because of her marriage to a registered sex offender. The judges refused to sign off on the agreement made between the parties because they believe letting a child be around a registered sex offender did not satisfy […]

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If you are an army veteran and a parent, chances are, you have been going through some rough patches with combat stress and possibly, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It’s pretty normal to be having a hard time adjusting after you’ve served, but don’t stress too much over the fact that it may affect how you raise your children. It will only cause you more stress. You just need a little help, and maybe this just might be what you need. It’s a Change for Everyone After serving in the military, coming home to your family may result in a pretty huge change in the environment- not only for you but also for them. Your children might have already grown and got used to the fact that you are not around. Don’t worry, all they need is some time to get used to you being there now. Don’t rush into it, especially if you see that they are more comfortable with sharing their experiences to and seeking help from the at-home parent. You will all fall into a pattern after some time. They will also be needing some time to adjust to your behavior. Traumatic experiences in the army have changed you. You may not be treated like how they used to treat you before you left. There will be differences not only with them but also with you. Give them time to adjust to you as you adjust to them. Understand Each Other And this isn’t only for your children, but also for your partner as well. Having you back in the picture will be new to your partner who has been used to holding the fortress down, alone, while you were gone. Imagine how hard it was for your spouse as well, having to raise the children alone. Of […]

Combat Stress of Military Parents in a Divorce