Parenting


Co Parenting Tips
Summertime Co-Parenting Tips for divorced and separated parents by Gary Payton After getting over with the painful process of separation it is time to put a few things in order and organize them so that life becomes a bit less stressed. A number of divorces involve kids who are sent into the custody of one of the parents. Once a divorce has been processed via a divorce attorney the parents need to make sure that they bring up the kids in a way where they get the love and care of both the parents. Providing for the kids is the responsibility of both the parents. It is not only regarding the finances but also the emotional aspects of the kids need to be taken care. The kid should not feel an absence of one of the parent in his or her upbringing. Divorced parents need to keep their differences behind them especially when the vacations and social dos of their kids are involved. For this the divorced individuals need to keep coordinating among themselves to run things smoothly. Keep your communication alive and healthy Although you have been divorced still make sure to keep the communication channels open between both of you. This can be a big advantage to both of you in terms of any joint accounts you guys still hold together. For the sake of your kids you need to keep that communication up and running to ensure proper planning whenever your kids need your presence. It is important for kids to get the love and affection of both parents together. Being the biological parent it is your responsibility to make sure that you dedicate a few days to your kid who is living with your ex-spouse. Planning is the key to a beautiful summertime with your kids […]

Summertime Co-Parenting Tips


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In this day and age, there are now more couples with different religious beliefs that are getting married. However, the downside is deciding which beliefs their children should follow. Yes, your child has the right to choose when he or she comes of age. However, parents have to decide for their children until then. The state of Texas passed the Religious Freedom and Restoration Act (RFRA) in 2015, which prohibits the government from meddling with religion. It also states that, under this law, it is illegal for individuals to use religion to ignore civil rights protections. Likewise, the First Amendment of the US Constitution gives Americans the right to exercise whatever religion they are accustomed, to or have chosen later in life. This goes for every citizen in all 50 states. That said, how will parents—both married and divorced—deal with choosing a religion their kids should follow? If the parents are still married The parents essentially have to agree on their kids’ religious upbringing. If they don’t, they can consult with a counselor about how they can approach this matter. But if the kids are old enough to decide on their own, they should let them choose which religion they want to adopt. If one parent has primary custody The court won’t determine the children’s religion, especially if they are young. But usually, children will adopt the beliefs of whoever has primary custody of them.  If divorced parents have joint custody? This can be tricky because the children will be exposed to multiple religious beliefs and practices. But, according to the law, courts aren’t allowed to meddle. What’s advisable is to let parents expose their kids to their respective religions. Again, courts won’t dictate what religion the children should be following, and neither should the parents. Why? Because religion can […]

Religious Disputes Between Parents



Visitation During a Child Protective Case in Texas
In a Child Protective Services case, one of the most important concerns is how soon a parent can see his or her child if the latter has been removed from the house of the former. If the Child Protective Services is granted temporary managing conservatorship, there are rules to be followed when it comes to the time they have to make the child available to see the parents. This article will discuss how the visitation process will be, when will it be, for how long the period of visitation should be, and tips on how to take advantage of the time granted to the parents for visitation in the best possible way. If Child Protective Services is granted temporary managing conservatorship rights because the parent has allegedly abused or neglected the child, the parent will be able to see the child not more than five days after the court grants the conservatorship rights to the services. At this point, the services should be coordinating with the parents, with the help of a CPS caseworker, to plan out a visitation schedule to have prearranged for their visitation.  The important factor considered in determining how often the parent can see the child is the individual circumstances surrounding the investigation. An instance is if the services has had the knowledge about an allegation of child abuse and their investigation obtains evidence that supports such allegation, it is possible that there may be no visitation unless the parent(s) undergoes counseling. The well-being and safety of the child is of paramount importance, and in this case, there would not be any difficulties in convincing a judge to order a limited or supervised visitation. If it is a limited visitation, the judge can decide on the place of visit as well as on the person who […]

Visitation During a CPS Case in Texas


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When a divorce comes into play in the family, the day to day events and challenges will change not only for the spouses, but for the rest of the family as well. When the relationship of both parents come to an end, the law gives the spouses the opportunity to go through the whole process of a Divorce. While this is going on in the court, there are many instances that may arise between the couple. It may be a possibility that both individuals come to the realization that they actually do not need a Divorce and will work things out. However, on the other hand, things may get worse as the Divorce is processed over time. When the parents are not in good terms, it is most likely that one of the spouses commit Parent Alienation. Parent Alienation Syndrome It is a common problem that most families face while going through a divorce, although cases may differ. To give a background, Parent Alienation Syndrome has been evident in families since the 1980s. Parent Alienation is when one of the spouses make different kinds of attempts for the children to turn against the other spouse. This may be in the form of verbal comments, emotional manipulation, and the like. This usually arises from anger of one spouse at the other, which will then be passed on to the children. Since the children are still more vulnerable compared to adults, and are more likely to believe their parents, the angry spouse is then presented with the opportunity to shed a bad light on the other parent, which may result to the child wanting to spend less time with the other parent being accused. A usual objective of the spouse who alienates the other is so that the children and the other […]

Everything You Need to Know About Parental Alienation



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Families are the most important thing in the world; so, when something as ugly as drugs sneak into the picture, you want to do whatever you can to stop it. Drug addiction can as early as the teen years of a child. In some cases, even earlier. It can be terrifying, but for now, you need to be as calm as possible. 1. Talk to your partner Start off by talking with your partner. This is a problem that should be handled by a family. Communication is key and will become the most important tool you have to combat drugs. Having a long and hard talk with your spouse will help you work together and tackle this problem as partners. 2. Figure out how to talk to your child Now that you have a partner by your side, you need to think about how to talk to your child. Most drug users will likely deny any blame. You need to be prepared for that. While it may be difficult and painful to collect proof, you may need to do this. This might also be something your child will get angry about because you are invading his or her privacy. You will have to decide on how you want to collect the evidence or proceed without it. Whether you have evidence or not, your child will likely retort in anger or retreat into themselves and perhaps stay quiet for the entire discussion. You need to remain calm and not shout at them, you need to make it feel like it is a safe place to share and this will hopefully show them that you are here to help. There are times they will ask you if you never tried drugs before, whatever your answer is, this is not an absolution from […]

My Child Is Doing Drugs, What Now?


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They say you get to know your partner more when you start living together under the same roof. Learn how to work with your partner to pay for bills and more importantly, do chores. A “traditional” marriage is letting the woman stay at home and do all the dirty work. This is obviously unfair treatment, especially when the husband isn’t doing anything to help. This might cause problems in the long run. Now, it’s different and more progressive: Couples work as a team to make their marriage work and last a long, long time. So, how do you split the housework between you and your spouse?  The first thing you need to do is sit down and discuss what needs to be done daily and weekly. Wash the dishes, do the laundry, take out the trash—all that stuff. Once you list all that down, ask each other which tasks are plausible to do considering your respective schedules.  One effective pattern you can follow is alternating tasks each day. Example: The wife can wash the dishes on Monday, Wednesday, Friday; husband does the same on Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday. You can also dedicate one day—we suggest Sunday—to do chores together. Do the laundry and vacuum the whole house every week. Go out and spend quality time after. What if one of you can’t do their assigned chores for a certain day? Just ask your spouse nicely to switch days with you. Make sure you don’t go back on your promise and you don’t skip chores all the time. You should always have a good reason for not doing your part. Another important thing to remember is help is always appreciated. If you’re having problems, ask help. If you see that your spouse is struggling, offer a hand. Splitting the housework may […]

How to Divide Chores at Home for a Lasting Marriage



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When you are getting a divorce, establishing the rights and duties of Texas parents before the divorce is finalized is a must. It is also important to pay attention to the parenting plan that will be included in your final divorce decree. The parenting plan will include many things such as a guide to the rights and duties of Texas parents until the children graduate high school or turn 18, as well your considerations regarding your child after the divorce. In other words, the parenting plan will include information about conservatorship and child support as well as access and possession information. These factors cover the different parenting methods you’d have to adapt following the divorce. Of course, these factors are basically the same ones you need to maintain a good relationship with your child even while staying married. It’s just that in a divorce, the judge will spell out your duties and responsibilities clearly in a legal document. Most parents are most concerned about how much time they’d be allowed to spend with the children after the divorce. Here are the things you need to know about the factors mentioned above so that you can feel at ease somehow, and so that you can prepare for possible custody issues. Rights and Duties of Texas Parents in Conservatorship Every parent can relate to that longing for more time with the children. We all know how critical it is for our child’s growth and well-being too. When you are going through a divorce, it is natural to worry about these things more than usual. You will realize the importance of the time you get to spend with your child when you are on the verge of losing it. Of course, unless you have done something extreme, you won’t lose the right to […]

The Rights and Duties of Texas Parents


cyber visitation
Virtual Visitation has been successfully incorporated into laws of some states that that are concerned with custody and visitation. Texas is one of these states. Definition The use of any kind of technology to communicate with the child when physical visitation is impossible. Any application or software that allows video chatting and any similar technology are all considered as virtual visitation platforms.  Pros and Cons Virtual visitation is important especially to a parent who works far away from the place of residence of the child. A prime example of this situation is those working overseas such as those serving in the military. Virtual visitation gives the parents who are away from their children a chance to communicate with the child. It also promotes a long-lasting relationship between the parent and child despite the absence of normal visitation.  The upside of virtual visitation is giving parents who are far to continue building a good relationship with their child. Simply being present in important events of your child such as holidays, school events or just having a good conversation with them at the end of the day, in some real way or manner, can really make a huge impact in the life of their child.  On the other hand, a downside of this kind of visitation is the fact that it cannot successfully replace normal physical visitation because this includes intimacy which is not present in virtual visitation. As a parent, no technology can replace holding your loved ones especially a parent being able to hug their young child. In addition to Physical Visits Some parents are concerned about virtual visitation becoming the new normal visitation in this day and age of technology. Hence, they think that courts will have virtual visitation as an option for the latter to order. An important […]

The Importance of Virtual Visitation for Separated Parents