Divorces can be a pretty stressful experience. While the process of divorce itself can get very difficult, life after the divorce can be just as hard. Getting used to how life after divorce can take a lot of trial and error to adjust to. But if you think that parents have it hard, kids can suffer too. The divorce can affect children just as much as it would for their parents, sometimes even worse. How well they do in school would be a perfect example.
Having to Adjust
For kids, life can get very confusing and difficult after their parents’ divorce. Some may have a harder time than others because some divorces may just be sudden and unexpected. If one wasn’t expecting their parents to divorce, he wouldn’t really know how to feel about it. But if a divorce was expected, they’d also have a difficult time, but not just as much. This would be because these children have somehow already acknowledged and expected, not being that surprised that it happened. In a sense, they’re more adjusted to having a life that’s constantly disrupted due to their parents’ marriage. This helps them carry on with their everyday life much easier.
Who Has It Easier?
One might think wealthier children may be able to adjust better than other children. After all, they are provided for. That isn’t necessarily true as a recent study revealed that wealthier children may even have a harder time adjusting. It can negatively affect their school performance. It showed that money wasn’t really of any help to them in adjusting in school following their parents’ divorce.
The study showed that even kids coming from regular had an easier time adjusting, and sometimes not even needing to adjust at all, as they were more used to life was already rather disrupted due to their parents’ relationship, therefore not really getting affected by another disruption in their life. Kids from stable families, on the other hand, had a harder time adjusting because this kind of disruption would be new to them.
Being rich doesn’t necessarily help you adjust to your parents’ divorce better. In fact, money isn’t a major factor in helping a child adjust, but being used to disrupted family life is. The deciding factor would be whether or not they’re used to being in a disrupted family, showing that these children don’t really get affected much in their school performance because of how used they are to stability.