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Focusing on Your Child’s Best Interests

Your child’s best interests will always be a key point in your divorce and child custody cases. As you are well aware, your child feels the impact of the divorce even more than you do. It’s really a sad reality that you have to accept and deal with properly. You and your spouse can have some control over the circumstances that affect your divorce, but your child is completely helpless. It is quite common for children to feel confused and misplaced when their parents are undergoing a divorce. As a parent, you obviously would want to protect your children. The divorce probably happened because you want to protect your children from your spouse’s wrongdoings or abusive behavior. Knowing what’s in your child’s best interests would definitely help in ensuring that they can have a normal life during and after the divorce.

The conflicts and the many issues that you will have to deal with throughout the duration of your divorce could take its toll on you. You might lose sight of the fact that your children are your priority. You could be blinded by things that you will fail to recognize what’s in your child’s best interests. How can you play your divorce according to your child’s best interests?

1. Avoid the Courthouse

It might come as a surprise to many that a lot of divorce cases don’t get into the courtroom. Contrary to what movies and television depict, most divorces actually end in settlement, hence, there’s no need to pay a visit to the judge. The only problem with this option is that you might find it difficult to deal with your spouse when you are still at the peak of your anger. If your spouse has terribly wronged you, it can be quite uncomfortable to work together to reach resolutions for your issues and for your child’s best interests. You must also avoid going into arguments with your spouse during the divorce for you to reach a settlement that will be advantageous to both parties. When you argue, emotions will run high and it is possible that both of you will make unreasonable decisions.
You have to remember that in settling the case outside of the court, you are not trying to win. Your goal is not to come out of the discussion as the ‘right’ party and your spouse as the ‘wrong’ party. You have to work together especially when it comes to matters that involve the children.

2. Remember That Your Child Is Your First Priority

It might tempt you to drag your spouse through the dirt during the divorce, but you have to always remember that your children are your first priority. With that said, your spouse is also their other parent. Your children could get hurt seeing both parents fighting tooth and nail during the divorce. After all, children always look to their parents for guidance and assurance. Hence, if you are in such a state, your children will have a hard time finding guidance and assurance. In order to not get lost in your fight with your spouse, set goals with your attorney at the beginning of the divorce. This will keep you in line and will remind you that your children will always be your priority. It will help you avoid being petty with your spouse and doing unhealthy things like seeking revenge.
Your children may not understand marriage but they would want their parents to get along so that they can feel stable and consistent. They would care about how civil you are to each other rather than how much you get when it comes to the division of property.
Whenever you negotiate regarding any issue with your spouse, focus on how it can benefit your child.

3. Hire An Attorney

If you are undergoing a divorce, hiring an attorney can present you with a variety of benefits. An attorney will not only help you with your paperwork but can also give you expert advice from years of experience dealing with divorce cases. Your attorney will help you protect your rights and uphold your child’s best interests. You will also gain a partner who will keep you in line during the negotiations throughout the entire divorce ordeal.
When you have set goals regarding how you should act when dealing with your spouse at the beginning of the divorce, your attorney can help you moderate your behavior according to those goals.

Your attorney can also help you by giving you advice regarding the things that are in the best interests of your child. This way, you can avoid messing up the divorce and creating consequences that your child can suffer from for the rest of their lines.

During the divorce, it’s all too easy to forget your child’s best interests because you can be overwhelmed by the things that you want for yourself. An attorney can help you through all of that.

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Mr. Hutton is a Divorce and Custody Lawyer based out of Round Rock, TX. His background is with child psychology at Arizona State University where he received a B.S. in 2006, and he continued this by working with the Children’s Right’s Clinic at the University of Texas School of Law where he received his J.D. in 2009. Throughout his practice, he has been a strong proponent of utilizing modern technology to improve his practice and the representation of his clients. He currently is the technology chair of CAFA of Travis County and is committed to improving and modernizing the practice of law in Texas. If you have any questions you can contact him at

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