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How to Convince Yourself to Stop Stalking Your Ex

Moving on after a divorce can be really hard. Residual feelings might make it hard for you to stop thinking about your ex, and this might even lead you to stalk them on social media. If you find yourself doing this, it might only really do more harm than good. If you seem to relate to this, maybe keep on reading. Because there are a few things that you need to know.

Stop It

Maybe your friends and family have already told you this, and if they have, they’re right. If they haven’t, here it is: stop it. Aside from stalking your ex being a little creepy, stalking your ex on social media to check what they’re up to won’t really do you any good.

If you think it might bring you some comfort knowing what you’re up to, chances are it’ll be the opposite. Think about it. What good will it do you? Absolutely nothing. It’ll just give you more unnecessary things to think about. Whatever it is they’re doing with their lives after your divorce has nothing to do with who you. And it shouldn’t have anything to do with you. It’s over.

Thinking about their welfare or wondering what they’re up to won’t really help you in any way, especially if you’ve just gotten out of the relationship. The only thing you’ll be giving yourself by checking on them would be more hurt.

Accept It’s Over and Move On

For whatever reason, things came to an end. There’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t go back or anything. Which is why you’re just going to have to accept it and move along. The sooner you get over things, the better. Of course, it will take time.

We’re not saying you should be okay the day after or what. You just have to accept that it’s over and you can’t do anything except move forward. Whatever happens to your ex after your divorce has absolutely no bearing on how you’ll be. It shouldn’t. You two should have nothing to do with each other. Now it’s time for you to focus on yourself and improve who you are as a person. You owe yourself that much.

Divorces will always be tough. Sadly, there really isn’t much you can do about it except to pick up the pieces and move along. You don’t have to do it alone, but you most definitely shouldn’t be letting your ex’s life still affect yours. You’re back to focusing on the things that involve you and not her. And though these things will take time, when you eventually get back on your feet and get out of that rut, things will go smoothly. Just hang on.

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Mr. Hutton is a Divorce and Custody Lawyer based out of Round Rock, TX. His background is with child psychology at Arizona State University where he received a B.S. in 2006, and he continued this by working with the Children’s Right’s Clinic at the University of Texas School of Law where he received his J.D. in 2009. Throughout his practice, he has been a strong proponent of utilizing modern technology to improve his practice and the representation of his clients. He currently is the technology chair of CAFA of Travis County and is committed to improving and modernizing the practice of law in Texas. If you have any questions you can contact him at

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