How you choose to raise your child will have a big impact on the kind of person they’ll become as they grow up. That is why you need to be careful with how you choose to act towards them, especially during the years leading up to their adolescence. The way you discipline them is especially important because this can either help mold them into better or worse people, believe it or not. That’s why you need to know how to discipline them properly.
What TexProtects Says
TexProtects, an organization in Texas focused on the protection of children, believes that any verbal or physical punishments that may cause a child trauma has no place in disciplining a child. Contrary to what some people may think, any harmful verbal or physical disciplinary action is done on a child does more harm than good. A continuously growing body of knowledge backs this up. Doing anything that may cause your childhood trauma when disciplining them will only affect them negatively as they continue to grow.
Talk to Your Children
The best way to discipline your children is to talk to them about what is wrong and what is right. You may think that they might not understand you because they are still children, but they will if you really just try to talk to them about it. Hurting your child because they did something wrong won’t make much sense to them compared to reprimanding your child by telling them what they did wrong and why it was wrong. Make them know that behavior like that won’t be tolerated and will merit punishment.
Be Firm, But Reasonable
When it comes to punishments, make sure that what they get is proportionate to what they did. Of course, any verbal or physically harmful consequences are out of the question. Placing them in time outs, taking away certain privileges, or anything of the sort would be some good ways to discipline them. Just always keep in mind that you shouldn’t hurt them to the point they get traumatized. Don’t let it get out of hand either.
Don’t Forget the Good Too
Aside from watching out for bad behavior, it would also be good to watch out for the things they do right. Be sure to reward them for good behavior every now and then so that they know that you aren’t just waiting for them to get something wrong. Let them know what kind of behavior is good too so they know what to keep on doing too. Remember, you’re there to help support them too. Just like anyone else, a little encouragement goes a long way.
Children are very impressionable people, which is why you need to be careful about how you act around them. Your actions, no matter how insignificant they might seem to you, will leave a mark on them, and that’ll affect how they grow up. So, we really have to make sure we act towards them in ways that will positively affect them.