served divorce papers
  You could have been talking with your spouse about getting a divorce or you could be totally in the dark when you receive your divorce papers from a law enforcement officer. Whatever your level of awareness is, getting served your divorce papers can be a quite unnerving experience. You will basically be notified that a lawsuit has been filed in court against you. You will also be informed that you need to respond within a set period of time. Most of the people served with divorce papers feel a certain apprehension when they receive such a notification because it’s a lawsuit – and most people feel that they haven’t done anything wrong to warrant such a thing. The paperwork you will receive will, of course, be in English, but you would be surprised to see that it’s not quite readable. At least not like how you can read a newspaper or a magazine. There will also be instructions that will come with the paperwork but it won’t be easy to understand it – definitely not straightforward. When you find yourself in this situation, you might not know exactly what to do next.   How to Handle the Situation   There are many ways you can handle the situation when you are served your divorce papers. We would like to advise you on what you should do when you reach this perplexing point in life. How should you respond and how you should deal with the paperwork is something that’s going to be challenging since it’s probably going to be your first time. When you first receive your divorce papers, you must never set it aside with the intention to deal with them later. Of course, it’s not an emergency situation, but you still need to take certain actions once […]

What to Do When You Are Served With Divorce Papers   Recently updated !

One of the biggest issues to resolve in a divorce is custody of the children. There is a common notion or expectation that the mother gets custody. That is unless it is subsequently proven that she is unfit or unqualified. This is not accurate.  The actual statute of the law is that custody of the child will be awarded to the primary caregiver. That is not always the mother. There are also many instances wherein the father would willfully concede primary custody. These and other cases have perpetuated the misconception that the “default” custody belongs to the mother.  However, there are cases wherein the mother actually loses custody of the child. If you are facing this situation, this doesn’t mean you lost your child. You can still be a mother to your child. It is a tough situation, but there are ways to cope and still be a good mother to your child.  Try to Address the Reason Why You Did Not Gain Custody If you really fought for primary custody of your child in court, then the judge would need to be very clear and detailed in his/her decision.  There are common reasons why a mother is not awarded custody. It could be as simple as the fact that you are not the primary caretaker. This is not just an issue of who spends more time with the child, although that places a lot of favor.  The judge will look at which parent does the most in terms of child-rearing. The parent who addresses most of the child’s needs. In most cases, that would be the stay-at-home parent, but it is not a certainty.  If there are any accusations that would cast doubt on your ability to be a parent, as a history of abusive behavior or a proven […]

How to Keep Your Role as a Mother to Your Kids After Divorce when You are a Non-custodial Parent   Recently updated !

stalking your ex
Moving on after a divorce can be really hard. Residual feelings might make it hard for you to stop thinking about your ex, and this might even lead you to stalk them on social media. If you find yourself doing this, it might only really do more harm than good. If you seem to relate to this, maybe keep on reading. Because there are a few things that you need to know. Stop It Maybe your friends and family have already told you this, and if they have, they’re right. If they haven’t, here it is: stop it. Aside from stalking your ex being a little creepy, stalking your ex on social media to check what they’re up to won’t really do you any good. If you think it might bring you some comfort knowing what you’re up to, chances are it’ll be the opposite. Think about it. What good will it do you? Absolutely nothing. It’ll just give you more unnecessary things to think about. Whatever it is they’re doing with their lives after your divorce has nothing to do with who you. And it shouldn’t have anything to do with you. It’s over. Thinking about their welfare or wondering what they’re up to won’t really help you in any way, especially if you’ve just gotten out of the relationship. The only thing you’ll be giving yourself by checking on them would be more hurt. Accept It’s Over and Move On For whatever reason, things came to an end. There’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t go back or anything. Which is why you’re just going to have to accept it and move along. The sooner you get over things, the better. Of course, it will take time. We’re not saying you should be okay the day […]

How to Convince Yourself to Stop Stalking Your Ex   Recently updated !

child sex abuse
Things that have to do with any kind of abuse are hard to deal with, most especially sexual abuse. Things only get harder if you find out that the abuser is your spouse and that the victim is your child. But as much as it might sound like a situation that’s hard to accept, these things do happen. And if you happen to find out that your spouse happens to be one of those people, thinking of a course of action might just be difficult for you and your child. If you do find yourself in this situation and want to learn more about what you can do, read on. Focus on Your Child With so much going on in a situation like this, the first thing that you’re going to have to focus on would be on your child. You’re going to have to start taking steps to help make sure that you get your child out of situations that might put them in danger. Whether it be taking your child out of your home first and moving them to a relative’s home or keeping constant watch over your child, you’re going to have to make sure that they feel safe, especially around you. You should also talk to them and find out how you can help them through it. Consider their feelings and help them know that what they feel is valid. If you need help with that, maybe have a therapist talk to them to help them process their thoughts and emotions. File a Case Immediately In the United States, all states, such as the state of Texas, recognize that sexual abuse is a crime. If you find out that your spouse has been sexually abusing your child, you will have to report it as soon as […]

Discovering Your Child Suffered Sex Abuse from Your Spouse

getty rr photo of father and baby in bed
When a married couple has a child, even without properly establishing paternity, people will automatically assume that the husband is the father. In order for that thought to be legally changed at court, ample evidence is necessary. It’s different when an unmarried couple has a child, it is often necessary for one parent to establish the identity of the father of the child. This is very important because this is the fact that the child will have to grow up with. This also matters because the child will need support from the father, such as financial support. Usually, despite being unmarried, the father would assume that his rights to the child are guaranteed even at the face of separation from the child’s mother. Acknowledging Paternity Usually, the acknowledgment of paternity is done at the hospital, after the child’s birth. There is an Acknowledgement of Paternity document that both parents can sign before it is submitted to the government office. When the father signs the documents, all doubts about paternity is put to rest, and the father’s name is added to the birth certificate, usually. If the couple is not married, the father is informed of the rights and duties of a father before he signs the Acknowledgement of Paternity. Once he signs the document, only then can his name be added to the child’s birth certificate. The acknowledgment document is then submitted to the Bureau of Vital Statistics. Once they accept this document, the father’s name can be officially added to the birth certificate. Other Ways of Establishing Paternity Another way to establish paternity is through the Child Support Division of the Texas Attorney general. This happens when the mother doesn’t really know who the father of the child is, or if either of the two refuses to sign the […]

How to Establish Paternity in Texas

holiday visitation
It’s almost that time of the year again. The holiday season’s about to roll in again. That means a lot of free time for the kids. For some people, that also means holiday visitation time’s about to come. If you’re one of those people, chances are you still might be figuring out what to do. Well, if you still have no idea what you’re going to do, don’t worry. We’ve got a few tips for you that might help you out. Just keep reading on. Plan, Plan, Plan This might already be obvious, but sometimes people tend to forget the obvious. If you’re not one of those people, it’s still good to reiterate it to emphasize how important this is. The best way to make the most out of holiday visitations with your child is to plan it out. Make sure you have the dates set and all the details ironed out. They don’t have to be incredibly detailed, but at least just make sure you have some idea of what you want to do with your child. That way, you don’t waste so much time trying to figure out what to do when you’re already there. Plus, it gives both of you something to look forward to. Think of the Children Holiday visitations should be centered on your child. We understand that you miss your child and that you haven’t seen them in so long, but just remember that this is more for them than it is for you. When planning out what to do, remember to keep your child in mind. Do things you know they’ll love. If you aren’t sure what they are or just want an update on what they’re into at present, you can always talk to them. We’re sure you want to do a […]

Tips for Planning Holiday Visitation with Your Child

data privacy
Publicity can be good or bad. It just depends on the situation. If you achieve something incredible, for example, a little publicity about that achievement of yours won’t hurt. But when it comes to more personal matters such as your divorce, it’s different. Your divorce is part of your private life, after all. But since your divorce is technically a public document, will everyone be able to see it? Accessing Public Documents State laws differ. Most states keep almost all filed legal documents online. Anyone with an internet connection can access these digital documents; Save for details that are restricted from the general public. On the other hand, some states may not have gone completely digital. They may still keep legal records filed and accessible to the public via something like an order or request. The public can access your divorce documents. But that doesn’t mean that all details regarding your divorce can be seen by everyone. What can be Kept from the Public Technically, what is made accessible to the public would be the judgment for dissolution of your marriage. There are obviously some documents you need to submit in filing such as those related to finances and custody. Luckily, you don’t exactly need to have those documents. You and your ex can also agree to your complete settlement without all the details accessible by the public. What Else can be Done Aside from having important documents excluded, you can also file a motion to have your file sealed. By having the divorce file sealed, you prevent people from accessing your file without a court order. You can also keep the details of your arbitration private. File for the dissolution of the details and documents referenced to prevent the public from seeing anything you wouldn’t want them to. Though […]

Is My Divorce Public?

spouse in debt
Working through a marriage takes a lot of work. You’ll need to learn how to live together with someone, work out your differences and problems, and learn how to support each other among other things. Part of the several things you’ll need to work together on would be your finances. Since you’re now living together, you’ll have to both learn how to spend within your means and make sure you have enough to keep on living decently. But what happens if your spouse just keeps incurring debt? What should you do? Well, keep reading and maybe you can figure something out. Talk to Your Spouse Before anything else, the first thing you should consider doing is talking to your spouse about their debt. Let them know what’s on your mind and why it’s starting to concern you. After all, you two are living together and you two should be working things out. Maybe there’s a way to solve this debt problem of his and make things better. If there seems to be a way that you two can work this problem out, then great! But if it seems like there isn’t any other way, maybe you can consider further action on it. Either way, it would be best to at least bring it up so you can tell your spouse how you feel. Seek Legal Help If things are beginning to get difficult between you and your spouse and you think you can’t really take it anymore or it’s just too far along to get fixed, you can consider getting a divorce. Go seek help from a lawyer. Find out what steps you can take to help get you out of the situation you are in. Even though you are married, if your spouse’s debt just keeps on getting bigger […]

Should I Divorce a Spouse Drowning in Debt?