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Reasons Why Stay-at-Home Moms Gets a Negative Rap

There are several and various notions and mixed reactions to stay-at-home moms. Some say positive things like how they sacrifice a lot in order to stay home and tend to their children every day. Some say that they are lazy. In this day and age of independent career women, being a stay-at-home mom usually gets dumped on. Most people think that they are entitled and they are just living the luxurious life being jobless, not reporting to any superiors, and not having to deal with workplace stress. Below are some of the common reasons why people think that being a stay-at-home mom is not good. 

This lifestyle is treated as a luxury.

As mentioned above, many people would think that being a stay-at-home mom is a privileged lifestyle. The mom gets to stay at home without any financial problems and just live off the earnings of the husband. However, what people fail to see is that this decision can also be an economic necessity for families. A 2018 study shows that the rates of daycare exceed the earnings of the family in a month. This means that several low-income parents would actually end up paying to work instead of the other way around. But, dealing with tantrums of a child and constantly cleaning after is not exactly an appealing job that is worth being envious of. They are also the likely victims of domestic violence and economic abuse.

Stay-at-Home Mothers are not the most confident people.

Many believe that who they are as a person is related to what they do in life. As a result of not having a traditional office job, many stay-at-home moms often end up losing the confidence they once had. While the children may think that their mom is such a superwoman, in most cases, it does not equate to high self-esteem on her part.

Me-time is out of the picture. 

On its face, it may seem as if being a stay-at-home mom gives you the luxury of time that will enable a stay-at-home mom to pursue those hobbies she had always planned on doing such as learning pottery, mastering another language, going to yoga classes, etc. This cannot be any further from reality. A stay-at-home mom’s day includes erratic sleeping schedules, an endless list of appointments and activities, and all of the children’s requests to play house or catch in the backyard.

Isolation is a big possibility.

As a stay-at-home mom, talking to your kids all day is the new norm. While it builds a good relationship with the children, it is not the same as having deep and serious adult conversations. This can cause detachment to the outside world because you would have no clue about the current events or share your own opinions about them. 

In the end, it all depends on one’s choice and situation. We all do not walk the same path of life. Maybe being a stay-at-home mom is not the cup of tea of some people. Maybe it is something that fulfills them as no other traditional job can. One thing is for sure though, being a stay-at-home mom is definitely an undervalued work even before and especially now.

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Mr. Hutton is a Divorce and Custody Lawyer based out of Round Rock, TX. His background is with child psychology at Arizona State University where he received a B.S. in 2006, and he continued this by working with the Children’s Right’s Clinic at the University of Texas School of Law where he received his J.D. in 2009. Throughout his practice, he has been a strong proponent of utilizing modern technology to improve his practice and the representation of his clients. He currently is the technology chair of CAFA of Travis County and is committed to improving and modernizing the practice of law in Texas. If you have any questions you can contact him at

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