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Survival Guide for Newly Divorced Single Parents

All parties involved in a divorce will have to make major adjustments. While the children will most likely be considered as the victims, the most challenging role belongs to the newly single parent who gains primary custody.

Gaining custody is a major victory for the parent, but he/she must also be prepared for the challenges ahead.  The newly-single parent will not only have to face parenthood alone, but he/she will also have to start the recovery process for the child. However, a new beginning still brings hope and these tips can help them survive. 

Watch Out for Loneliness

There will always be reminders and memoirs of happier times when the family was whole. These memories will always remain dear in the hearts of both parent and child, and that’s how it should be. However, it can make you feel empty and lonely. 

The only way to avoid loneliness is to make new memories. The biggest blessing is to have your child. Neither of you are alone and this is the time to draw strength from each other. Engage in new hobbies, go on vacations to new places together and you will be able to add a new chapter to your story, even without the other spouse.

Get Rid of Guilt

There will always be a sense of guilt for both parents, as it takes two to tango. Even if the other spouse was the one who cheated, the refusal to forgive or give another chance may arise in lingering questions for the wronged spouse. 

This is where the support group comes in. Friends, family, church or officemates could help place the situation in the right perspective. The task for them is to encourage the single parent to look forward and leave the regrets behind.

Plan Your Future with New Hope

Marriage entails sacrifices and compromises, and more often than not, the divorce arose from a failure to comply with one of these.

Revisit your goals and plans before the marriage. Which of your goals can still be pursued? The list could be lengthy, depending on the type of relationship they had in the marriage.

The end of the marriage is the beginning of a second chance at an independent life. The world is your oyster once again, and this is a golden opportunity to teach your child the values of resilience and positivity through trials.

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Mr. Hutton is a Divorce and Custody Lawyer based out of Round Rock, TX. His background is with child psychology at Arizona State University where he received a B.S. in 2006, and he continued this by working with the Children’s Right’s Clinic at the University of Texas School of Law where he received his J.D. in 2009. Throughout his practice, he has been a strong proponent of utilizing modern technology to improve his practice and the representation of his clients. He currently is the technology chair of CAFA of Travis County and is committed to improving and modernizing the practice of law in Texas. If you have any questions you can contact him at

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