Life after a divorce can be tough. There’s a lot you’ll need to sort out, especially your emotional state. Even if the marriage wasn’t terrible and the reason for the divorce was something you and your ex-wife amicably agreed on, you could still be hurting deep down. Life goes on whether you like it to or not, that includes your ex finding a new husband. Even if it does suck, there will come a point where you’ll have to just accept it and just get along with her new husband. If you’re having a hard time with that, why not consider the following things as you go along?
Take Your Time
Everyone gets over things at their own pace. There really isn’t a correct timeline for moving on. As long as you’re really trying and making an effort to better yourself, then you’re doing fine. Moving on should really be the first thing you need to focus on. Accept that things are over and that they’re over for a reason. Don’t think that you’re on the losing end or that things won’t get better. Also, avoid placing the blame on anyone for what happened. Things just happened to unfold the way they did and now you’re here. There’s nothing you can do except to move forward and continue with your life. Harboring any negativity regarding the whole ordeal will just make it harder for you to move on and might just put you in a spot where you just become a toxic person. No one wants that.
Be Warm, Be Open
When the time comes that you believe you’re over it and have moved on significantly, you’ll see that you’re in a better headspace to deal with things that involve your ex. Her new husband included. Just as how every person moves on at different paces, every person also warms up to other people differently. You’ll really just have to gauge it. The best thing that you can do is show your ex’s new husband some warmth and openness. If they see this, they’ll at least feel somehow that there aren’t any hard feelings regarding what happened. Allow them to warm up to you at their own pace and things will eventually work itself out. If they don’t, even if you really did try, then that’s not your fault anymore. If anything, at least you showed your ex that you did get over it and that you’re mature enough to be able to deal with these things like a proper person.
Some marriages end for a reason. In the end, the best thing to do is just accept that it happened and move on from it. No good comes from staying stuck in the past. We’ll be better off just accepting everything that comes from what happened, including your ex-wife’s new husband, and allowing ourselves to grow from it.