Marriage is hard work. It’s a job that can either make or break you as an individual. Just like any other relationship, it has a possibility of ending. And just like any other relationship, the sole cause of it all ending could start with simple words. Words, after all, can do so much. Among the several things that people say in a marriage, there are a few that can really do a lot of damage.
Threatening for a divorce, whether or not you actually mean it, is one thing that can lead to your marriage ending. Think about it. If things get difficult and you just end up threatening to divorce your spouse, it just goes to show that you’ve practically given up on the relationship. For you to consider divorce as an option in your marriage shows that you just don’t care about it anymore. You don’t want to work it out, you don’t see why you should, you just want out. Threats like that just make it look like your marriage is something so trivial that you can just call it quits and walk out. So much for commitment, right?
Sure, people get angry. That’s normal. Maybe we can even say that insulting a person we’re angry at is normal. We’re all guilty of hurling an insult at someone. Usually, insults might not damage a relationship right away, unless the insult was something that really struck the person’s nerve. But the hurt that insults bring, especially if there were no reconciliations done after the insult was said, can accumulate and make the hurt grow bigger. And if the hurt grows bigger, this can make your spouse eventually feel unloved. If that keeps on, your marriage will suffer at one point or another
Nothing at All
Though words can do a lot to hurt a person, also not saying anything at all can do so much. Sometimes, saying nothing at all already says so much. And if you happen to find yourself in a pretty tough spot, maybe a situation where your spouse is going through a pretty rough patch and may perhaps need some consoling, you saying nothing at all to them says so much. If you don’t do or say anything at the least, it’s almost like you’re telling your spouse that you really don’t care or don’t want anything to do with it. And to a person who could want some comforting words, hearing nothing from your spouse about it hurts a lot.